To be successful in a relationship I need these things TRUST. RESPECT.
SELF CONTROL. FAITH. HONESTY. and the ability to COMPROMISE. It's really
simple for a girl like me to live up to these words because I've never
been fake. If I make a mistake I openly and honestly admit it. Even if I
flirt with a man I tell my husband {awkward} in so many words. Not all
the words come out LOL but most of them do. That isn't something
everyone knows about me. I am an open book with my husband. There is
nothing he doesn't know about me.
TRUST - reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence
RESPECT - to show regard or consideration for
SELF CONTROL - control or restraint for oneself or one's actions
FAITH - strong or unshakable belief in something, especially without proof
HONESTY - truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness
COMPROMISE
- a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agrement
reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles,
etc., by reciprical modification of demands
Now that we've laid
out the ground work here we go. In my opinion, I believe TRUST and
RESPECT go hand in hand. First and foremost, in order to get someone to
TRUST you completely, you must earn their RESPECT. You also have to
'show' them a tremendous amount of RESPECT. You have to give a little to
get a little. A man and a woman can not have a successful relationship
if you don't TRUST and RESPECT each other. For instance, cheating is
what men and women concern themselves with the most when in a
relationship. The man is trying to make sure his woman isn't cheating on
him and vice versa but if she RESPECTS you she would never disRESPECT
you by cheating on you. To get to that level you have to earn it. Most
men believe spending money on their girlfriend is enough to make her
loyal. That is not true! I am not materialistic and I know that I am not
alone. HOO-RAH Ladies! One of the things I would do in college that
helped my husband see that I was not just after his money was I would
ask him for money to do different things with my friends. I didn't work
because I was in school and he was okay with that. Sometimes I would
want to go to the movies or skating or to dinner and he would bring me
money but he would always give me one hundred dollar bills. Instead of
thinking "he must have a lot of money" I would get irritated because
hundred dollar bills were very hard to break. LOL You get the point. So,
spending money on your girlfriend is not always the best was to make
her loyal. Being an honorable man is the best way to do it. If you say
that you will be at the Walgreens on ABC Street at 3 pm. Be There! If
you can't make it call as soon as you know and divulge that info. Show
her that you know her time is precious and you RESPECT that. If you show
her the utmost RESPECT she will show it back. In order for her to show
you that utmost RESPECT you have to allow her a little cushion room and
TRUST that she will be loyal and 'hold her man down'. Every woman is
human and loves attention from a man. A good friend of mine once told me
"conversation with the opposite sex is both healthy and intelligent."
So, if you see your girlfriend or boyfriend 'talking' to someone, don't
become the needy whiny person you yourself would despise. Allow them to
use their SELF CONTROL. When you are apart have FAITH that God has
blessed you with something amazing, that you deserve to be happy and,
most of all, have faith in that person. When you feel any type of way
about something that you don't like, be HONEST about it. Don't let
things pass and you bury them in your internal vault because eventually
'mad day' will come and that is what you want to avoid happening. Mad
day is when the two of you have let things skirt by for a long period of
time and then it all comes to a head. This usually happens about 2
months before the relationship ends. I say that because when mad day
happens the most mean, abusive disRESPECTful, hurtful things are said
because you are trying to win the argument. What you don't realize is
after all is said and done you can never take back those disRESPECTful,
hurtful things that you didnt really mean. People say sticks and stones
may break my bones but words can never hurt me. Bullsh*t! I think adults
made that up to help children cope with being teased in elementary
school. When the man you love calls you a b*tch, you can't go back from
that or when the woman you love tells you that you are less than a man,
you can't take that back. I think it's best to be up front and HONEST
and COMPROMISE with each other to prevent the bad blood. If you hate
that he leaves his dirty socks in the floor tell him. Don't just pick
them up everyday and then one day he has dirty socks in his dinner plate
and he looks at you like you have completely lost your mind. :o)
Relationships are a blessing. The purpose of deciding to be in a
relationship with someone should be to learn and grow together not to
see who can come out on top but in a successful relationship there is no
out. Remember that!
TRUST. RESPECT. SELF CONTROL. FAITH. HONESTY. COMPROMISE.
*Be Dazzling*
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